Self Love vs self love: the TRUE difference
Self love has become a buzzword these days. Rightfully so. There is a rampant epidemic of self-loathing, guilt, hate and doubt. What if I told you that there is self-love that actually strengthens this epidemic. This obsession the modern world has on self love is a cry for help but many are misguided on its true essence.
In this post, Self Love vs self love, we'll cover:
Ego vs Higher Self
The difference between self-love & Self Love
The nature of love
How to harness the true power of Self Love
Ego vs Higher Self
One stems from the ego. One from the higher self. One feeds the ego. One is supported by the higher self. The question lies what is the ego? what is the higher self? Who am I in-between?
For simplification, let's imaging the ego is on the lower end of a scale while the higher self is on the higher end of the scale. The I am - the Soul of you is the entire scale in human form. We are all spiritual beings having a human experience. The ego is necessary for the human experience, it grounds us on Earth. Yet the ego is the aspect of us, that must mature and grow. How can one grow as aspect of themselves they aren't aware of? they can't.
The ego desires. The ego attaches. The ego compares. The ego yearns. The ego resists. The ego defends. The ego lies. The ego grows. The ego learns. The ego is a functional unit for one's material exist when believed to be real. It is not a tangible material entity but an immaterial force within the mind.
The higher self knows. The higher self integrates. The higher self acknowledges. The higher self illuminates. The higher self expands. The higher self nudges. The higher self expresses sincerely. The higher self is situated in the all pervading wisdom of the material and immaterial world.
Self Love is supported by the higher self. 'self-love' feeds the ego. It's a matter a maturity and integration. Reiki assists the soul to integrate the ego in this lifetime through chakra cleansing, clearing emotional stagnation and cultivating more love & transparency within the heart. Feeling aligned with an Intuitive Reiki Healing Session, click this link to book with me.
The difference between self-love & Self Love
Self Love emanates from your Higher Self, the aspect of you fully in line with your soul. You feel this love when your'e having fun, exuding joy, doing what you love, being authentic to you, surrounding by those who SEE you. This love doesn't judge yourself, shame yourself for past actions or fear future actions. Self Love jumps into this life open with the knowledge that even if they get hurt - all is well.
'self love' feeds into the notion that there isn't enough, that no one will love you unless you change essentially that feeling of unworthiness. This emanates from the ego's desire to control, manipulate and defend. The truth is that there is NOTHING to defend against. Your worthiness doesn't have to be proven. Because you are conscious of your existence is the only proof you need. This is the sign that LOVE flows through you and to you.
The Nature of Love
The truest nature of love is unconditional detachment with a spirit of neutrality. Love is like an open palm holding onto nothing while noticing all and willing to give. Truly take a look at yourself within, your intentions with an open heart. Do you love like this? Do I love like this? This is where releasing the ego comes in. The Source, Universe, the God force is pure LOVE. We are made up of this love, truly exemplifying it as children. We can bring this love back into ourselves and relationships through acceptance and awareness.
It may be surprising to learn that many human inter-personal relationships are not rooted in the TRUTH of love but rather the ego of love. The ego of love states 'I'll love you and accept you as long as you serve a conscious or subconscious need of mine." This is a very conditional way to love. Just as a closed fist, doesn't let go, it can't let anything in either.
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How to harness the true power of Self Love
Making Self Love your default will take time as many have walls up and layers of defense mechanisms that block the ability to receive pure love and give it as well. This begins with the simple decision to give yourself FULL acceptance. On the deepest level, what you give to yourself is what you give to the world. Authentic and true Self-Love cannot be selfish or self serving. For the higher self, knows you are here to love and be love.
Where do you begin? It's so simple, you don't need a 10 day retreat in Bali or a guru to walk you through a plant medicine ceremony. While these modalities help to reveal more aspects of you. The lasting shift comes through asking yourself questions. Answering honestly. This is the beginning to true transformation. Allowing love to guide and lead you deeper towards your divinity. This can be done through shadow work, meditation, affirmations, visualizations, stillness, Reiki, Yoga and other healing modalities that OPEN you up to the truth. To integrate more true love into your life, I curated a Inner Healing Self-Love workbook to guide you through the process. Click here to learn more about the workbook.
May you continue to deepen your embodiment of love, peace and authenticity. Your light is needed in the world. Shine 🦋✨
Till the next one, peace - Sai 🪬