Detachment paves the way for Inner Peace
Head pounding. tears running down my face. can I keep doing this? I wonder to myself at 7 am as I boil a pot of hot water for my rising tea. Why do I not feel satisfied. Why am I not able to focus on why I made this choice in the first place. What is my family thinking of me. My clients and friends all think I’m brave, a free spirit. But why don’t I feel free…
what I learned living in the beautiful mountains of California in a van
Here is why I was soooo attached. Believing that I absolutely needed something for comfort, survival and social likability. I was going in cycles simply igniting my own suffering. Triggered by anything that reminded me I didn’t have a kitchen, an apartment or house.
Living below my means has shown me how much I am attached to the material. How I’ve been conditioned to believe that my material possessions provide proof of my own worthiness. How I subtly would seek validation based on what has been going on in my life and what has accumulated. Now that I felt like things were at a “stand still”, my self identity was being rocked to the core. — even when I chose to do this. This feeling of stagnation was simply a perceived limitation that I’d convinced myself is real.
So I began to focus the abundance and expansion that had been right in front of me all along. I had yummy, nourishing food. I had love and partnership. I had transportation. I had water. I had wifi. I had many necessities (some would deem luxuries) YET still I was focusing on the lack.
The gaping hole of want. Of desire. That no matter what good things surrounded me I would focus and search out what wasn’t working out. How miserable of an existence?
How neurotic as well…
Tethered to the belief that reality must be how my ego expects it to be. While the expectations of my soul are so broad it left room for surprises and most importantly peace.
A peace that isn’t phased if all the pieces aren’t here yet. A peace that sees the bigger picture. A peace that appreciates the lesson of it all. A peace that is focused on the unwavering family vision, my husband and I have.
Speaking to my ego like a child really helps to bring understanding and awareness to a subconscious aspect of me.
‘It’s okay my precious ego. To allow. To release. To relinquish your expectations that are rooted in immediate results. Rather than forward intermittent growth. The soul aspect of your being came here for the adventure for the journey.’
Why rid yourself on the process that makes being alive so damn worth it.
I realized that it wasn’t living in a van - in the beautiful mountains of California that was the problem. It was perspective of living in a van in the beautiful mountains of California.
No matter what is going on in your life. Your perspective holds the seed of transmutation of your experience.
Good things happen to you. God things happen to you. God happens to you. Everything is working out in your favor for your greatest and highest good. By holding this perspective, what outside circumstances stand a chance to the inner conviction of your goodness.
Detachment allows you to hold this perspective, coming from a neutral space within yourself that shines onto your world. Attachment leads to a rigid sense of self, where you would feel threatened by anything that challenges or diminishes your ego’s self image.
By understanding where attachment resides in your life and how it manifests, you can begin to detach from what no longer serves you, open your heart to neutrality, and cultivate a more compassionate and loving relationship with yourself and others.
For your quiet time, here are 8 journal prompts designed to guide you into deeper self-reflection and awareness of your attachments:
- What material possessions or achievements do I feel emotionally attached to? How do these possessions define my sense of self?
- What fear arises when I think about losing something I hold dear (e.g., money, possessions, status)? How might this fear limit my sense of freedom or inner peace?
- When I reflect on my relationship with material things, does it feel balanced, or do I feel like I’m overly dependent on them for happiness?
- What do I fear might happen if I were to let go of the things, people, or ideas I am attached to? What beliefs or stories fuel this fear?
- If I were to fully detach from my ego and external attachments, what would be left? What parts of myself might feel exposed or vulnerable?
- How can I practice more acceptance and trust in life, allowing things to flow without the need to hold on tightly?
- What aspects of myself do I feel the most attached to (e.g., physical appearance, social status, accomplishments)? Why do these qualities feel so important to me?
- In what ways do I tie my self-worth to external validation (e.g., praise, approval, likes, success)?
Hugs🦋
Till the next one ~ Sai✨
